How I Work

Most people who find me are looking for a different relationship between their mind, body, and spirit. For about half of them, that starts with something physical: something hurts, or holds, or will not settle, and they have usually tried several other things first. That is a good enough reason to come, and for plenty of people it stays the whole reason.

It is not the only thing that happens in the room, though, and after twenty-three years I have stopped pretending otherwise. A lot of what people actually use me for is the other thing: someone who can see what is going on with them and say it plainly.

I want to be precise about this, not because other approaches are wrong, but because the words mean different things to different people, and I would rather tell you exactly what I mean by them than let you assume.

I am not claiming to read minds or predict the future. Most of what I offer comes from something more ordinary than that: pattern recognition, developed the way anyone develops it in a field they have spent a very long time in. Across more than eight thousand sessions I have watched a very large number of people at close range, in a state where they are not performing for anybody. Patterns become obvious. What somebody is working around tends to show up in how they hold their shoulders a long time before it shows up in what they say. I will also say, honestly, that not everything I notice traces back cleanly to a pattern I recognize, and I am not interested in insisting that it does. I leave a little room for that.

So when I tell you what I am noticing, it is an observation, offered for you to test against your own life. Sometimes it lands straight away. Sometimes it is wrong and you say so, which is just as useful. It is not a verdict, and you are not required to accept any of it.

The range is wider than the table. People bring me decisions about work and money, patterns in their relationships and their families, physical things the medical route has not resolved, and the larger question of what to do next.

I am comfortable across all of it, and I have never found those to be four separate problems. Usually they are one problem showing up in four places.

I did not arrive here from a wellness background. Before any of this I worked in the military, in corporate life, in hospitality, in entertainment, and in healthcare, and I have owned my own businesses. That range is the point. Whatever world you are coming from, the chances are good that I have sat in a room like it, and you will not have to explain it to me from the beginning.

Not psychotherapy. I am not a psychotherapist, psychologist, or counselor, and when what somebody needs is that, I say so and point them toward it.

Not medical care. I do not diagnose or treat conditions.

Not fortune telling. Nothing here predicts what is going to happen to you.

Not a replacement for anyone you already work with. I would rather work alongside your doctor and your therapist than instead of them.

A phone call. It is free, it takes about 15 minutes, and it is genuinely just a conversation to work out whether I am the right person for what you are carrying. I would rather tell you I am not than take your money.